Hello Ladies...I've been sharing with you posts from an online journal I once had on Chocolate Brides. I like to look back from time to time to see where I was, my growth, etc... I figured if the posts are still encouraging me, then they would encourage you too. Here's a post from September 24, 2008.
I've made this observation before, but it has become more apparent to me as of late. If a man is not ready to get married, he is not ready. And, as my sister says, "And you can't make him be ready". I've seen the demise of two relationships recently that ended in divorce simply because the man was not ready (actually in one case, the man wasn't ready and in the other case, the woman forced it). It's a sad situation to be in and witness because I feel like it's so heartbreaking after the two people are sobered to the reality of their decision after the fact. I mean, we all go through things where we desire to have something that may or may not be for us but knowing the situation you're in or want is very real.
I must admit, my downfall at one point was not realizing that my ex wasn't ready to get married. He said he wanted to but there's a big difference in "I want to marry you Audrey" and "Audrey, will you marry me?" I didn't go too crazy and start planning stuff (although I could have) but I figured "Hey, I'm ready" but didn't realize that he wasn't where he needed to be.
At any rate, I just want to say that even though I have my days sometimes, I'm very thankful that God has not granted me what I think I need at the moment. Tricia said it so wonderfully the other day when she said that God is preparing the man He has for me. If I remember nothing more about this experience is to be grateful for a ready made man.