Wednesday, July 27, 2011

LISTEN NOW: GOD IS WAITING TO GIVE YOU HIS BEST {PT 2}

Hello everyone. Here is part two of God is Waiting to Give You His Best.




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Friday, July 22, 2011

LISTEN NOW: GOD IS WAITING TO GIVE YOU HIS BEST

Hello everyone. Here's another message from me that I hope will bless you. God showed me something since visiting here with my mom and I thought I'd pass it on to you. Just click the play button to hear the message. Please feel free to share your thoughts by leaving a comment in the comment box. Thank you.

Part 2 to this message, to follow.



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Monday, July 18, 2011

A MESSAGE FROM ME :-)

Hello all. I decided to do a little something different and post an audio message from me on here. I've been wanting to do it and finally got a chance to post it. Just click "play" in the audio box to hear the message.



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Friday, July 15, 2011

#FUTUREWIFETWEETS {PART 2}


FUTURE WIFE TWEETS:

Ok, I'm going to share briefly what's been on my heart/what I've noticed lately

I've noticed that some single women express a sense of entitlement about men, like men should be good to them just because.

I've seen things like, "I don't know what to say about men today. They act like they don't know what they want."

or things like, "Why can't men seem to get their act together?"

And I've also seen, "I'm going to get me a girlfriend because these men don't know what they want." This is a whole 'nother issue in itself

Honestly, I've been kind of put off by these sentiments because not only do they show a lack of sensibility but it's borderline offensive to the women who are actually taking time to cultivate themselves and change for the better for the man God has for them

Let me just say this to those with an entitlement frame of mind : A man does not OWE YOU anything

On a deeper level, I think these women are trying to fill an unfulfilled void in their lives and are relying on men to do so. #majormistake

On another level, I think they want "the milk for free". They don't want to put in the effort to change themselves so they can even ATTRACT the person God has for them.

In any case, I've noticed that lately and it's quite agitating to put it mildly. I have more to say, but I have to run. May post more later.
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#FUTRUREWIFETWEETS {PART 1}

Here's a recap of some of my recent tweets. Part 2 to follow.


FUTURE WIFE TWEETS:

#futurewifethought If you believe there aren't any good men out there why should God bless you with one?

That previous tweet has been on my mind lately. I've seen women complaining about men yet still want to be blessed with good man. #confused

How can you want something and don't even believe it's possible to get it?

A mistake I think a lot of single women are making is that they're placing a lot of hope in MEN, as if they are the final authority

Ladies: Place your trust in God if you have a desire to be married. A lot of you are getting disappointed because you're relying on mere men, who need God themselves, to be the "answer" that you're looking for.

Ladies: You want a man who's seeking God about a wife, not relying on his feelings, emotions or how you look



Wednesday, July 13, 2011

IB & MIKE'S "CRAZY IN LOVE" ENGAGEMENT SHOOT

One of the things I love about engagement photos is that they capture the essence of the relationship that exists between the soon-to-be husband and wife. This sentiment definitely holds true of today's couple, IB and Mike. I met IB on a site called Chocolate Brides and got a chance to see her love story unfold literally from beginning to end. Everything that you see in the images is descriptive of the now happily married Inyangs (their wedding will be featured very soon). They are happy, have fun, very proud of their heritage and are crazy in love. See for yourself.

Michael Inyang and Ibiene Inyang
Engaged: Traditionally (Dec 12, 2009), with the ring December 24, 2009


Where were your pictures taken?
[Our]pictures were taken in three places in Sugarland, TX (Houston suburb), First Colony Mall Town Center (white and jeans), Oyster Creek Park (Dressy). And then our traditional pics were taken at some water and stone feature along HWY 6 lol


Did you have a particular theme in mind?
There was no theme, just a reflection of our love and goofiness. The only thing I wanted for sure was some in the red phone booth. Mike was born in London and I love anything with a punch of color. So when I saw that booth in front of a pub, I knew for sure I wanted that in our shoot.


How would you describe your photo shoot (fun, upbeat, etc...)?
Our photo shoot was definitely Crazy in Love. Mike made me laugh from the moment I met him…literally the first night before we said our goodbyes. Our follow up phone conversations had him dying at some of my crazy shenanigans. Our shoot reflected that. From our “sexy pose” to him carrying me to climb a wall to him making me almost fall. We are crazy together and crazy for each other.




Who styled you for your shoot?
I styled myself and Mike styled himself. We both have a pretty good sense of style and just went for it.

What did you like about your photographer?
He didn’t take himself seriously and so he let me ask for crazy stuff and would just capture our moments.

What time of day was your shoot?
Early in the morning (@9-11). It was in May and Texas is HOT!

What tips would you give to someone who is interested in taking engagement photos (i.e. scheduling the appointment, helpful questions to ask the photographer, if it's outdoors ?)
Have a general idea in mind, but go with the flo. If there is a prop or theme, let it be known but not central. You will miss out on expressing yourselves and get stuck trying to fulfill your theme.


Who was your photographer?
Muyiwa at ForeverDay Photos www.foreverdayphotos.com

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

COMING UP ON CHRONICLES: IB & MIKE'S ENGAGEMENT SHOOT

CRAZY IN LOVE- Tomorrow, COAFW features the beautiful engagement photo shoot of IB and Mike. They show the love, fun, and even silliness of their relationship. You're going to love it.


Monday, July 11, 2011

FEATURED AUTHOR: ARMOND MOSLEY & REDEDICATION

I say this a lot but God has sent some great people my way to feature on COAFW. Today's guest is no different. When Jennifer posted a flyer for an upcoming book tour that she and Armond will be on, the first thing that grabbed me was its title, "The Purity Tour" and second, a male was also sharing his view on the subject. Of course I had to get him on Chronicles.

Today Armond will share some of his story as a man who yielded to God and lived a life of celibacy until marriage. He will also give some insightful thoughts that I know will encourage the future wives of COAFW.

See what it's like to be rededicated.


Armond Mosley, Author


As I read the intro to your book, Rededication, it dawned on me that this book can speak to women just as much as it can speak to men. Why do you think your book would be helpful for women to read?
Well, I think the journey as a single in Christ trying to preserve oneself as per God's command isn't gender specific. Though the experiences may differ, the spiritual turmoil is the same. For that reason, I think my book can be read by male or female because of the inherent spiritual journey detailed.

Additionally, I think my book would be helpful to women because I believe it will expose them to a different male perspective than they are accustomed to. While I recognize that the perception is that there aren't too many men who profess Christianity that are willing to wholly submit to God in the area of sexual sin, there are some. And I believe that my book will provide women with an insight into the struggles that those men go through at a more intimate level than they might obtain through casual conversation. This can help them understand the journey better from a male perspective and ultimately assist them in being a better support for said journey.

Lastly, my wife wrote the Afterword and in it she continues the theme of transparency that is upheld throughout the book. Initial feedback from the women who've read thus far is that her testimony has been both refreshing and encouraging. It adds balance to my story and sheds light on how God was working on both of us (in preparation for each other) at the same time without us even truly understanding.

You mentioned in the book that some of the guy friends you hung around didn't seem to be convicted about sexual sin, that it would be the "one" sin that God would deal with them on. Why do you think God dealt with you specifically in the area of sexual sin?
I think God dealt with me on it because he wanted my attention. He had work for me to do and it was time to get started. Sexual sin and the pursuit thereof served as big distraction for me. It created a divisive wedge in my relationship with God even though at the time I didn't realize it. Since submitting to Him, I've seen the work He's done through me and I can truly say I'm in awe. Much of the work He had for me could not have been achieved without me first submitting this glaring sin area in my life over to Him. He needed to get me past it so that He could begin to shine light in the other areas of my life. Now, almost 7 years removed from the first inclination to become celibate, I can see clearly why He chose me to deal with when He did. He wanted a male testimony. He knew that there were a litany of future pastors, deacons, ministers, prophets and other religious leaders that were trapped in bondage as a result of their acquiescence to societal expectations and inability to uphold His standard and He wanted me, little ole...broken me, to serve as an example. Wow. I'm humbled to even think about it. What first started out as celibacy workshops eventually evolved into Rededication the book. When I was going through my celibate journey I was always frustrated that there were no other black male examples that I could look to for support. And for that reason, I knew that if, through His power, I made it to the altar with a story to tell, the story would be His and to Him would be the glory.

I believe that God is beginning a new movement in the church...a return to purity for His young adults and singles. He wants them to know that He loves them and that they don't have to submit to the world's standard to 1) fit in, 2) find a man/woman or 3) keep a man/woman. Those with whom His spirit resides will find new comfort in this season as more and more will begin to take a stand against sexual immorality and restore what was once sacred between a man and a woman under the confines of marriage.

Why, in your opinion, do you think some men have somewhat of a cavalier attitude toward sex outside of marriage?
Well, for men, sex has been purported to be the premiere symbol of masculinity since the beginning of time (and especially in the age of modern media - "sex sells"). And so, from the moment a man comes into consciousness with his sexuality, he's generally been exposed to what he's supposed to do with it - have sex with as many women as he can in order to obtain and preserve "top dog" or alpha male status amongst his peers. This probably sounds childish, but this truth holds for grown men too. This psychology is buried deep into the average male's subconscious so early in the developmental stages (long before many can learn to develop an authentic relationship with Christ) of his life that by the time he's a young adult (>21), its perceived to be "normal." Normality is the ingredient that breeds a cavalier attitude because for the men who are doing the act, they don't see themselves as being cavalier, they view themselves as normal. And that's the problem.

How do you think we, as women, can encourage our brothers in Christ, or men in general, in the area of sexual purity?
Well, I think it boils down to solidarity. The problem is that while one woman may preach sexual purity to someone she's dating, there are 10 more who will engage in sexual impurity with him. This in turn makes the woman who's trying to uphold sexual purity look like an anomaly. This is especially the case within the Christian context because as the culture has strayed further and further away from the "standard" (God's standard), what it means to be a Christian woman has become more and more compromised. And thus the message of encouragement around sexual purity from a female to male has become diluted. If women can make a pact (even in remote circles) with each other to preserve sexual purity themselves and not compromise for fear of "losing him," I think that would be a great start.

Outside of the relationship paradigm, I would say that one of the primary things women can do to encourage men is to speak life into the men they interface with by way of words of affirmation relating to a man's intellect, character and personality (for example). Society has put the black man in a box and dubbed him as the "premiere sexual being" of mankind unfortunately. Women are often caught gossiping with one another about a man's endowment or lack thereof under the auspice of "girl talk." These types of discussions have to be eliminated if men are ever to accept a reality that suggest that women are not judging them by some sexual barometer. It completely undermines any attempt at convincing a man that it's "cool" and "ok" to be celibate. Instead of this traditional sexual banter, women should seek to shift the discussion to more noble traits of men and cause men to aspire to something other than sexual performance. The "Single Ladies" and "Girlfriends" example of how women engage with one another behind closed doors does nothing to promote a reality where men can be celibate and not be chastised. Until that paradigm shifts, it will continue to be difficult for women to influence men to be sexually pure.

Most of the women who read COAFW are single, waiting on the man God has for them. Do you think it's realistic for them to expect their future mates to be celibate?
Yes, but I don't think it’s realistic for them to believe that they can be the catalyst for their mate being celibate. What I mean by this is that I don't believe it’s a good omen for the woman to be the one to "encourage" celibacy in a relationship in order to get the man's buy-in. If he isn't already bought-in before he met you, I'd suggest steering clear if a celibate man is something that you desire. Reason being is because I'm a firm believer that the "choice" of celibacy for a man has to be in response to God's Word of truth. They can't "decide" to do it for personal achievement reasons and they can't do it because this "really fine girl they're dating is celibate." Those reasons aren't sustainable and if you find a man in that situation, the likelihood that he'll succumb to the flesh (and/or cause you to fall) over time is far greater than one whose made up in his own mind that He wants to follow God's command. That said, I've known (at least 3 that come to mind got married within the last 4 years) and know celibate men. They are out there, so don't give up hope!

How did your life of celibacy help your relationship with your wife before you were married?
Well, first off, I think it helped me be in the position to allow God to reveal my wife to me. Before celibacy, I was so self-centered when it came to relationships and dating and I never once allowed God as "seat at the table" in the process. However, once I became celibate and came to understand what it meant to truly submit to God, I found myself being more patient with "His time." As a result, once she was revealed to me (I know it sounds crazy, but God really did reveal her to me), I was able to truly appreciate her as the gift God intended her to be.

Once we began dating, celibacy definitely helped us build a true relationship. It allowed us the space to genuinely get to know one another without the distraction of sex. In my opinion, that's dating in its purest sense (i.e. courting). Though we were already great friends before our courtship began, we developed an even greater level of appreciation and love for one another. An interesting note is that at first, it was a bit awkward for us b/c we both had been conditioned to equate sex or the pursuit thereof with affection. As such, in its absence, I had to make adjustments and so did she. This took time, but we were committed to the paradigm shift required in order for us to be affectionate without being sexual. My belief is that it is the absence of sex, which has the ability to cloud judgment and blur vision, that created an environment where our true emotions were allowed to grow freely without oppression. As a result, after one year of courtship we were engaged...six months later...married. I know that the timeline I just outlined could be perceived to be fairytale-ish, but I have no doubt in my mind that it was our submission to God in one area of our life that led this expedited timeline. It was much easier to see clearly and once our sight had achieved 20/20 vision, we had nothing else to wait on.

What would you say to a man who wants to live a life of celibacy but is struggling to do so?
I'd first tell him that I'm excited for him because the acknowledgement of a struggle is the first step. "Conquering" sexual sin is not something that is once and done and most will not succeed on the first try. But, that doesn't preclude us from trying and trying again to meet the standard that the Lord has set before us. It is of our love for Him and His son Jesus, that we submit ourselves to him and pursue righteousness. Will we be perfect? Absolutely not, but our duty is to strive, even through struggles, to do His will.

In my book I outline a 3-phase process that I've identified as I looked back on my own journey and the missteps I made. The first phase is called Purging. I would tell the man who wants to live a life of celibacy that he first needs to purge those things that represent the life that he no longer wants to live. That might include people, place or things. The second phase is called Nourishing. Once he has purged, it will be important for him to "refuel" on the things of God through studying His Word, prayer and affiliation with the local church. Not filling those voids left behind in Purging can be very dangerous and gives the enemy an opportunity to attack at the most vulnerable points. The last phase is called Living. Once he's purged and nourished, now he's ready to begin living again. One of the key components of Living is to hold tight to those new habits developed during Nourishing and getting accountability partners in place to help you in your walk going forward. Finally, I'd let him know that it wont be easy, but if he's committed to submitting to God's will for HIs life, through His power, he can be victorious!


Book Information
Find out how to pick up your copy of Rededication here.
For a sample of Rededication, email Armond at rededicationthebook@gmail.com or go to Kingdom Workshops , click on the "Books" tab, then click on "Download Free Sample Here".


Sunday, July 10, 2011

COMING UP ON CHRONICLES

REDEDICATION- Tomorrow, see another great feature from a male's point of view. Hear from Armond Mosley, author of Rededication: A Story of Sex, Repentance, and Restoration as he shares part of his journey as a man who yielded to God and lived a life of celibacy until marriage. He also shares some insightful thoughts that I'm sure will be an encouragement to single women waiting on the man God has chosen for them.

About the Author
Armond E. Mosley
Inspirational Speaker/Author

Mr. Armond E. Mosley is the founder of Kingdom Workshops, LLC, a Christian-based organization focused on educating, motivating and activating individuals to fulfill their God-given purpose(s) in life. Through Kingdom Workshops, Armond has had the opportunity to work with many churches, universities and civic organizations to provide solutions to the issues and challenges facing their respective constituencies. Utilizing candor, transparency and humor, Armond challenges workshop attendees to yield to the voice of God in their own lives to secure the joy that has been promised to them. Some of the signature workshop offerings are: Single and Celibate, Dating God’s Way and Biblical Entrepreneurship.

Born in Huntsville, AL, Armond now resides in Norristown, PA (a suburb of Philadelphia) with his wife. On June 6, 2011, Armond released his first book publication entitled, Rededication: A Story of Sex, Repentance and Restoration, which will is currently available through all online book retailers. In his spare time, Armond enjoys reading, watching sports (though he admits he doesn’t have a favorite team) and spending time with family and friends. For more info on Kingdom Workshops, visit www.kingdomworkshops.com. For more information on Rededication, please visit http://www.godzchildproductions.net/publications.html.


Monday, July 4, 2011

Saturday, July 2, 2011