WHO AM I TALKING TO?

Part two of "What Do You Believe About Men?" is coming soon, but after sharing that post, I started to think about who I was actually sending the post to. I'm guessing that those of you who have been reading Chronicles for a while are not the same person. Your thoughts about singleness may have changed. Some of you may be married by now. I don't want to assume that what I share with you is relevant to the "old" you. So, who am I talking to? I would like to know. How have you changed concerning singleness? What topics interest you now about singleness and beyond? Has your single status changed? I would love to hear from you. So much has changed from the time Chronicles began until now and I'm guessing you have too. Comment below or email me at coafw@yahoo.com to let me know who I'm talking to. I look forward to hearing from you.

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE ABOUT MEN?

Hello everyone :-) I hope you are having a great holiday. Chronicles hasn't returned but I felt led to share something with you that's been on my heart. As always, I hope it encourages you and helps you as you continue on your journey as a future wife.  

What do you believe about men? Have you ever asked yourself this question? For some, as you go on your journey through singleness, it's important to ask yourself real, honest questions and I believe this is one of them. You can also dig a little deeper: Do you think all men are cheaters? Do you think they don't know how to commit? Do you think they aren't worth much? Are you willing to settle for just anyone because you don't think there's a real, good, complete, whole man for you? If you have this type of mindset and you are struggling with the "whys" of your singleness, this may be a part of your struggle; it may be why you don't have clarity about how God wants you to continue on your journey. It gets worse when you buy in to what you see and what you hear. In this age of social media, we can be inundated with all types of negative messages. These messages can also be seen and heard in other ways: lyrics in a song talking about another relationship gone wrong, headlines reporting that another couple is getting a divorce or infidelity as part of the equation of someone's relationship. It can even be your own, personal experiences. All of these things can influence what you believe about men. 

So, what does all of this mean for you as a single woman who desires marriage? I believe it means it's time to ask yourself, "What do I believe about men?" I believe this will help to give you clarity and will help to remove the negativity that could be hindering you from seeing men as God intends for you to see them. After all, how can you believe God for a wonderful man when your view of them may not be so good? Even if your view of men is good, I believe it's still necessary to check yourself so that some of the negativity we see and hear doesn't take root. 

So, one more time: What do you believe about men? Be honest. Having a negative mindset about men is a burden and not conducive to the mindset that's needed in order to be hopeful about the awesome man God has for you. 

P.S. This mindset goes both ways, for men as well. This world is not set up for us as Believers so be careful of buying in to what it sells (Romans 12:1-2).

I will be back to share Part 2. 

Feel free to share your thoughts about this post by commenting below. 


Want to take more inventory of your single life? Check out this post.

CHRONICLES UPDATE

Hello everyone. I know it's been a while since I've posted, but this is to let you know that Chronicles of a Future Wife will be postponed for a while. Thank you to everyone who has supported COAFW over the years and those who allowed me to share their story. I believe in uplifting, and giving exposure to the joys of singleness and black love, especially when God is the cornerstone of both.

I hope that Chronicles has inspired you and motivated you in some way whether you are single or headed down the aisle. The blog will remain live for those of you who want to revisit or share any posts here. Thank you, again for your support. May God continue to bless you.

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