I have really enjoyed sharing Kwinetta and Brandon's proposal story this week, and featuring Kwinetta in the Future Wife series. Today we get to hear from Brandon, who is being featured in Chronicles' Future Husband series. Very rarely do we get to hear the male's perspective on marriage, specifically, when they are preparing to walk down the aisle. Today, you will get a chance to hear from a Future Husband who is preparing to walk down the aisle with love in his heart and Christ at the center of it all. Get ready to,once again, be inspired, encouraged, and blessed.
Meet Brandon.
Meet Brandon.
Brandon Moore
Wedding Date: September 26, 2015
Engaged to: Kwinetta Murray
Wedsite: www.themooremovement.com
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What was your first impression of Kwinetta?
My first impression
of Kwinetta would have to be that she was a WOMAN. Upon meeting her, I was
impressed that she knew exactly what she wanted in life and that she knew what
the epitome of being a woman who exemplified much strength. Also I thought she
was simply beautiful.
Were you thinking
about marriage prior to meeting her?
Prior to meeting
Kwinetta, I was in a relationship of two years and was getting prepared to
propose to that young lady but as we can see, that didn't go as planned. So
when Kwinetta and I started dating, there was this one time in which I knew
without having any other thoughts in my mind that Kwinetta was my wife.
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Did you ask
Kwinetta's parents for her hand in marriage? If so, how did they receive you?
This question is
fairly interesting. Before I officially met Kwinetta, I actually met her
parents. I was the guest moderator for a service that a mutual friend of ours
was having at their church. So I remember that service going very well.
Afterwards, I was greeting her mother and she looks at me at that moment and
says that you are my daughter’s husband. I was
like OMG. I did ask her father for her hand in marriage. I was super nervous
about it. He gave me a little comfort by telling me that I didn't have to be
nervous because he approved in me being her husband and that he has always
claimed me as his son. So that was a very smooth conversation between he and I.
Take us through the
day of the proposal. Were you nervous? How did you prepare?
On
the day of the proposal, it was actually Kwinetta’s
26th birthday. Although her week leading up to her birthday was very rough, the
end result was worth it. Kwinetta had a concert on her birthday and so we
wanted to make sure that she had everything that she needed. We had breakfast
and went to the mall to pick up a few items and then had lunch and then it was
time to prepare for the concert. I was a little late but when I got there,
everything was going so smoothly. So I had to speak on the program, and I had a
video presentation prepared for her of friends that could not make it to the
concert wishing her a happy birthday and then some slides compiled of pics and
words that led to the proposal. I popped the big question while everyone was
recording and she said yes.
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What are some
things you think a man should have in place prior to getting married?
I would definitely
say money. It’s very important. The most important
thing to me is communication. I believe communication has to be apart of the central
focus prior to being married. If a wife
is not happy, the FIRST action on her part should be to talk to the husband
(and vice versa). The only way to do this consistently is to talk; not yell,
not argue, but talk like civilized people. If you become enraged every time
your spouse tries to talk to you, you are pushing away an opportunity to fix a
problem. Take time out and actually LISTEN. Marriage is not an argument or a
punishment unless you make it one.
Do you have a
support system of men around you for prayer, counsel, etc..., as you take your
journey toward marriage? How have they helped?
I have a pretty
good support system. I am sometimes around married men who really exemplify
what effective marriages should look like. It has helped me to strengthen my
approach on being a husband.
Was it important
for you, as a pastor, to seek a wife that would not only support you in your
role as a husband but also as a pastor? If so, why was this important?
Most definitely. I
always wanted a wife who would support both her husband and her pastor. I never
wanted to be in competition with my wife. I think this is important because a pastor’s wife provides a
sounding board for her husband to vent, brainstorm, and question his progress
or goals yet encouraging and steadfast to support the vision that God has given
to them. She is often a nurse, healing emotional wounds that seem to cause many
pastors to give up. She is a counselor that helps her husband to work out
difficulties that are too close for him to see. She is a lover and protector to
shield him from harm and to provide the loving care that is so vitally needed,
especially when one feels they are in a lonely profession. Many pastors do not
have close friends they can vent or share their problems with. A pastor’s wife provides
that companionship that encourages him to continue even when he feels like
giving up. So for these reasons, I can truly say that I have a woman who fits
all of these qualifications.
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What do you believe
God's purpose is for you and Kwinetta?
I believe that
Kwinetta and I have been called to be examples to young marriages and
ultimately become world changers. Also to help strengthen marriages through
biblical principles. One of the major things that she and I have realized so
far is that even though it can be unnerving, is that people are watching us. So
we try to not put on a facade but really exemplify real love in front of people
who may ultimately become the souls that we may have to watch over.
What are some
things you would tell someone to consider prior to seeking a wife?
My advice to
someone that is seeking a wife, is that when you come to that pivotal decision
in your life, make sure that you are clear on what it is that you want. Be sure
and prioritize beforehand. Be healed from any thing previous so that you can
give the person you are pursuing everything that they deserve. Most of all have
an assurance of God of the person that you are going to love.
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Photo Credit: Milanes Photography
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